Aca-sabihan

My 2 cents: Career vs. Lovelife [02.2012]

If you are in a position to choose between love/ having a good relationship with your husband versus a career that you’ve been working so hard for a couple of years, what would you choose?

One person I know, is currently in this position and she chose her husband. I may not know the whole story, or the very reason which led her to this decision, but being in a similar case as her, I would have handled it in a different way.

I often see people in a dilemma between choosing love and career. The most frequent answer I give them is: Why should it even be a choice? Love is far more different from a career and I believe it falls under a different category. Of course, I would always prioritize my other half/ family, but it is also unfair to be asked to choose when these two factors should have been complementing rather than competing.

Love, should not stop you from bringing out the best in you. It should not stop you from doing things you should; it should not let you choose between something which is good for your personal and professional growth. Bottom line is, Love should not be selfish.

Career is something you built because you are knowledgeable, you are efficient, you are competent. All the years of study and sleepless nights led you to deserve this career path you chose. This gives you your own identity. Being known for something you did, for your contributions, for being YOU.

And love, it should boost your career, not pull you down.
It should inspire you, not discourage.
It should support you in your decisions.
It should be proud of what you achieved.
It should encourage, and not stop you from going further.

So, for the reason that your loved is asking time for you to spend with him alone and leave a career you’ve established, and then after a few months will leave you since he’s working overseas and then leave you alone and unemployed, do you think that is fair for you?

Aca-sabihan

When someone is in a crisis and you’re all too willing to help, you shouldn’t force that someone to spill to you a of the details of whatever he/she is going through. It’s not easy to describe and retell a story about the things that hurt you. You just simply have to let them be. Give them time. Make them feel your presence. Never force them, because the last thing he/she needs is some nagging from people who keep on saying they care but aren’t sensitive enough to somebody’s feelings

Aca-lokohan

World BJ Day

Mabuhay! I received a random text asking if I would like to have some meryenda. Bilang gutom na gutom ako that day, gumora talaga ako. I was super late, to the point na ubos na nila ang lafang nila at akong nalang inaantay. Pero keri, kwentuhan lang. Unli-tawa ang peg that day me were talking about the members of KBP (Kapisanan ng mga Bisexual ng Pilipinas) on how you could easily sense na myembro nga sila, especially sa shorts? Basta ganun. I actually forgot na may camera pala ako that’s why we had no pictures at Roma so talon na tayo sa part na may pics para may kwenta ng slight yung entry ko? Wit. may chika pako girl!

So after eating, again, purita nanaman ang decision making skills so, ang ganap supposed to be is magjijinuman ang mga bakla! Excited kami kasi we’re the type of crowd na hindi gaanong friendship ang alak, I mean we’re of light beer na tig-isang bote lang tas keri na sa ktv so we were game for a little spice for the night. So what we planned, we wanted try ung Blowjob na drink or yung flaming recca (cartoons?) basta ung me apoy2 chorva. So we had to prepare!

At mukhang napapadalas na kami sa Bayo, tumambay nanaman kami doon sa mansion ni madame #FrankieMinaj at inavail ang second floor and roofdeck nila with matching Pop Cola na wit naman namin naubos. After Bayo, kila @mattalamo naman kami until we bumped into another friend again kung saan medyo longer na ang chikahan this time with matching new dance step pa. Hindi ko na sasabihin kung sino siya kasi si Bugi lang naman yun. Choz! So after hours and hours na naghihiyawan outside their house, we decided to try Culinare’s BJ. Hesitant kami at first bilang purita nga kami, at price kasi na sinasabi ni Frankie eh 1,700 daw isa eh yun pala OA lang yung pricelist nya.

So when we got there, mega discuss naman ng order etc at tipong enemphasize pa na yan na “MUNA” orderin namin sa waitress.